Listen, I am not saying I am a life guru and that have all of the answers. What I am saying is, I have started and stopped in my health journey so many times. Every time I find myself down, I learn something new to take with me. Take what works for you and leave the rest. If there is one piece of advice I can give to everyone, it is that YOU HAVE TO BE YOUR BIGGEST CHEERLEADER.
I am not kidding. If you have to make up a fight song to get hyped, or a mantra to stay focused, I say go for it. Another thing I always say is, you have to have a strong foundation to build a house. The reality is, if the biggest driving force for you to get healthy is anything other than a personal desire, then you are building your house on shaky ground.
It's nice to have family support in your progress to get healthy, hell I even understand the petty response in situations like this too but it's the follow-through that seems to fall apart every time. I mean take this scenario for example, say your boyfriend breaks up with you because he says he is just not attracted to you anymore. (jerk-move but I digress). You still love the guy, so you make a promise to yourself that you are going to get your health together, you want to get fit. Time passes, and you succeed in your fitness goals. You are in the best shape of your life and everything's great. Your boyfriend finds you attractive again, but you live with the insecurity that if you gain even 1 pound back he'll leave you.
TA-DA YOU'VE BUILT YOUR HOUSE ON SHAKY GROUND!!!
If we set out to reach our goals for the benefit of someone else, we fight a losing battle. It's harsh but true because as soon as the external source stops holding us accountable the determination and motivation fly out of the window. Hell, the longest bout of routine I had with exercise and clean eating sprouted from the fact that I was being watched and basically shoved into the routine at first. Eventually, I realized I was extending my training sessions so that I could put it on display and rub everyone's nose in it. As soon as they backed off I pulled off the showboating. I felt I didn't need to anymore because I wasn't receiving the praise and recognition, so what was the point? I admit sometimes I can be stupid.
To truly succeed at your goals, you have to find a source of motivation that is sustainable. The motivation should come from the power that's within us. Each of us is strong. Each of us is resilient.
Move forward because you want to not because you have to. Once you decide that fitness is what you want then you have to give it hell. Replace all of the negative with positive. Always move forward by looking back a little at what you have accomplished and then learn from it, don't get bogged down by what still have left to work through. Be the best damn cheerleader you can be, even when it's the last thing you want to do, that's when you muster all the right stuff to kick butt.
Go forward with a good heart and a strong body.
Until next time readers…